1.Pray for your spouse
2.Declare any imaginations that you hold and let go of them
3.Forgive your spouse for anything. Again let it go
4.Declare out loud that you made vows of commitment
5.Read the five Love Languages and ascertain your spouse's love language out of these five
1. Words of Affirmation
2. Time
3. Physical Affection
4. Gifts
5.
Work on these like you would in the garden.
6.Recall when you fell in love with your spouse
7.Write a list of things you like about your spouse
8.Write list of similarities
9.Write list of opposite or complimentary virtues they may have
The above things should help in tearing any walls down between you.
If there's another third party interfering in your marriage:
Pray for your enemy in this case Bless them (don't curse them and watch God move)
10.Do small things to help your marriage.
11.Leave little notes
12.Leave gifts, special things you know they like
13.Advice from a travelling evangelist:
'Woman get wild and interesting' Don't follow around
14. Man listen and acknowledge
15. Greetings are very important - a smile and kind words
16. Read 'Boundaries' if your problem relates to rescuer and rescuee.
17.Be proactive IF you need to look better, lose weight etc. make a plan
18. Appreciate Male, Love Female
19. Don't give up. There is hope.
20. Remember they married you!
